Shadow Self Theory

What is the cost of not being yourself?

Well, Carl Jung would suggest it is a substantial one.

Since Halloween was last week I decided to dive into a spooky psychological theory. One that may sound like a Halloween fable but is a widely recognized and studied theory of where self-conflict originates from.

Here is a video that explains this theory if you prefer to learn that way.

Otherwise, I will share a written overview with all of you below!

The theory of the "shadow self," introduced by psychologist Carl Jung, suggests that each of us carries a hidden part of our personality, often consisting of traits, desires, and emotions that we repress or ignore.

This "shadow" forms as we grow, shaped by societal norms and personal beliefs about what is "acceptable." Anything that doesn't fit our ideal self-image—whether it’s anger, jealousy, vulnerability, or unconventional desires—can become part of this hidden self.

Jung proposed that ignoring our shadow self can lead to inner conflict, projection of our insecurities onto others, and hindered personal growth. Rather than being inherently negative, the shadow holds qualities that, if acknowledged, can lead to greater self-awareness. By doing "shadow work"—the process of exploring and accepting these hidden traits—we can integrate them into our conscious personality, achieving a balanced, authentic self.

The shadow self-theory highlights that understanding and embracing all aspects of ourselves leads to a more compassionate and accepting outlook on life. It encourages us to face our full complexity, allowing for genuine personal growth, improved relationships, and a deeper sense of empathy toward both ourselves and others.

Over the past year, this theory struck relevancy with me. I believe that as we progress through life we cut out pieces of ourselves in an effort to fit in, follow the traditional paths passed down to us, and to simply avoid discomfort.

So here is my BE YOURSELF CHALLENGE!

1) Take some time TODAY, about 10-15 minutes.
2) Write about 3 things you miss doing for yourself and why.
3) Write 3 ways you can integrate these back into your week or month.

It’s time to get back to being you.

Remember
”True growth comes from shining a light on every part of yourself.”